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The Co-Elevate Podcast with Shana

From Good Friend to BEST FRIEND... THIS changes EVERYTHING!

February 19, 2023 • Shana Ginsburg • Season 1 • Episode 6

Do you ever feel confused about what to do or say when a friend confides in you? Have you ever had somebody invalidate your feelings? On this episode, my best friend Olga Moreno teaches YOU how to hold space for the people in your life when they need you most. You’ll learn to distinguish invalidating statements from validating ones, and walk away with powerful insights to make your loved ones feel heard, seen, and acknowledged through life’s many ups and downs.

1:43:44 What does it mean to hold space?

3:12:38 Mistakes we make when friends confide in us

5:23:41 How to ‘meet people where they’re at’ and why we want to change people’s emotions

7:45:41 The damaging effect of cheering people up when they’re sad

8:43:40 The first step in holding space for others

11:40:42 Breaking down a Real-life example of holding space between friends

18:50:35 The challenge of not knowing what to do or say when a friend confides in you

21:14:05 The most common invalidating statements

22:30:32 The reason people say “You shouldn’t feel that way”

25:20:49 Example of toxic positivity

27:18:35 Why we invalidate others

29:42:34 Communicating what you need from someone when confiding in them

31:47:17 Example that distinguishes between wanting to be heard vs. wanting advice

38:24:44 A story about confronting and communicating with your friends instead of cutting them off/ghosting them

43:54:49 What to do and what not to do when you’re in conflict with someone

45:47:29 Examples of validating statements

48:24:44 Story of de-escalating conflict through honest and uncomfortable communication

52:20:36 The dangers of avoiding responsibility, being right or being defensive in conflict

52:44:35 Why you should NOT say “I’m sorry that you feel this way.”

53:39:34 The difference between guilt & responsibility

54:52:30 What are you NOT doing in your friendships?

56:39:36 Overview & Wrap-Up of HOW TO HOLD SPACE!

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