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Don't Say Goodbye: Working Through Conflict, Comparison, & Jealousy with Friends

February 28, 2023 • Shana Ginsburg • Season 1 • Episode 7

Have you ever wanted to cut off a friend after repeated conflict? Do you struggle with comparison, insecurity, or jealousy in your relationships? Are you terrified to work through challenging times with the people you love most? In this episode, my best friend Karen and I teach you exactly how to turn your most challenging friendships into your biggest blessings!

01:01:04 Introduction to Karen
03:10:26 How Shana was before meeting Karen
04:20:54 Our dynamic as friends
08:12:39 Becoming roommates
09:12:40 Noticing envy
11:02:15 “Something is wrong with me”
12:46:24 How the friendship became unhealthy
15:20:20 Example of comparison & conflict
21:20:23: Noticing jealousy around dating
23:48:39 A new way to look at jealousy
26:22:00 Building foundation in your friendship
27:47:21 Ghosting & cutting each other off
28:49:08 Communication in friendship
30:46:38 Taking responsibility instead of blaming
32:24:22 Importance of empathy in conflict
33:27:45 Reacting vs. Responding
36:22:36 Feeling competition in friendship
39:03:25 The KEYS to effective conflict resolution in friendship
41:19:13 Forgiveness
44:08:50 Embracing uncomfortable conversation
44:55:24 Clarifying and communicating your intention
47:16:57 Having conflict is healthy
47:36:52 The reason people don’t confront each other and why it’s important
53:18:25 Don’t hold past mistakes against someone
54:55:39 The humility to look at your own mistakes/flaws/responsibility
58:54:37 Ebbs & flows of friendship
1:00:43:54 1 thing you MUST know about the friends you’re envious of
1:05:30:23 Where our friendship stands today
1:12:25:28 Your hardest relationships are your greatest teachers